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Making Your Life Easier TM
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How effective is parenting today? We have read the books, watched Oprah and sought advice from others yet teen pregnancy, alcohol and drug use, violence, homicide and suicide are still affecting our youth. Face the Truth Teen Pregnancy: Children born to teenage parents; They are twice as likely to be abused or neglected. Girls born to adolescent moms are 83% more likely to become teenage moms. The teen sons of adolescent mothers are up to 2.7 times more likely to land in prison. Teenage parents; 70% of teen mothers drop out of school. They are twice as likely to be dependent on welfare. Alcohol and Drugs: Young people who drink are 50 times more likely to use cocaine. Young people who drink are 22 times more likely to use marijuana. Three out of five teenagers have had an alcoholic drink in the past month. The average age when a child tries alcohol for the first time is 11. Two-thirds of kids who start drinking by age 15 will end up trying illegal drugs. More than one-third of fourth-graders say that they have been pressured to drink alcohol. Homicide and Suicide 1 in 23,000 school age children (age 5-19) will die from homicide 1 in 28,000 school age children (age 5-19) will die from suicide 1 in 33,000 school age children (age 5-19) will die from cancer
We can prepare our children to face these issues successfully! Identifying Your Purpose Our purpose as parents is to raise our children to become healthy, happy contributing members of our community. We work ourselves out of our parenting role by teaching and modeling the skills needed for our children to function in a positive contributing way. Developing an Action Plan You will learn how to enhance and model your communicating and relating style which will assist your child in developing the skills they need to move from childhood to adulthood, track the progress of your personal action plan, and hold yourself accountable for following through with your child. How Does It Work? We engage in two one-hour phone conversations per month for three months, from the privacy and comfort of your home or office. Please contact Barbara Monahan at 201-261-2990 for more information or to get started. Barbara Monahan is trained in communicating and relating skills and is the mother of two pre-teen boys. She has applied the Making life Easier TM Parenting model in her own family and is excited to teach others.
Parenting - CuriosityWhat makes those kids tick? Children are naturally curious. They want to know and sometimes they want to know NOW! Curiosity helps the child figure out how life works. This aids in their development and it is important for adults to help them find the answers they seek. Helping them find the answers develops and builds a relationship of trust between parent and child. I know there are many times we just don’t have the answer. I have no problem saying that I don’t know the answer to questions my sons may have. I am interested in them knowing me as a person who has limited knowledge. I also like to use these opportunities to figure out the answer with them by asking them what they think. It is a subtle way to help them develop their “thinking muscle”, their brain. What about teenagers, are they still curious? Oh yes, those teenage years. Do you remember when you were a teenager? Teenagers are very curious and their curiosity may be about some very adult activities such as drinking, drugs and sex. How prepared are we to speak with our children, regardless of age, about topics such as drinking, drugs and sex? As parents, My husband and I made a commitment that our children would get this very critical information for their healthy development from us. My husband and I have been speaking with our children about these topics in age appropriate language since they were two years old. It starts by calling the anatomy of the body by its proper name. They will find out the proper name sooner or later and we want them to know that they can TRUST us with telling them the TRUTH. Today our sons are 13 and 10 years old. They are very comfortable speaking with us about their curious questions. The teenage years are transition years – moving from childhood to adulthood. It is a time of their life when they will be faced with making choices about drinking, drugs and sex. A parent may not enjoy these years because their teen may be combative. Try to remember that teenagers are working through these transition years as best as they can. They are trying to apply the teachings and guidance they have received from their parents up to this point in their life to the daily situations they face. As parents we must look at our parenting style and adjust to the changes occurring within our teen. This adjustment may mean moving from controlling and telling to supporting and coaching. Remember they are curious and want to know. They will find out one way or another. It is best for their development if this information comes from you, the person who loves them the most.
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